Smelling the Roses: Better Living Through Savoring

Stop and smell the roses, people often say.  Then they smile ruefully, because everybody knows there isn't enough TIME to stop or, as my daughter says, to chill.

 

            This is the Conventional Wisdom  and I'm here to tell you that the CW is simply WRONG.  Researchers in Positive Psychology find that people actually get more done if they take time out to SAVOR their day.  Not only that, but, over time, people who set aside a few hours every week are likely to be healthier, more relaxed, and better able to cope with the stresses of everyday life.

            Why not try it?  Give yourself the gift of Savoring.   (Hey, stress is all you have to lose!)  

            To start, make a list of 10 things you REALLY enjoy doing, whether or not you've made time for them lately.  I'm talking about stuff that gives you real pleasure.  They may be things you do alone, or with one other person, or with a group.  Look over the list, and see if one thing says pick me.  Choose one of those activities that you enjoy. 

            Now:  Take out your calendar, and SOME TIME IN THE NEXT MONTH, block out at least a 2-hour period that is JUST FOR YOU.  Half a day is better.  A whole day is best of all.  Do whatever is needed to make that time free.  Ask a neighbor to baby-sit.  Tell your spouse you'll be busy.  Say no to the half-dozen requests that will almost certainly challenge your Savoring Time .

  

            And when Your Day comes . . . GO FOR IT, whether you're making a picture, walking in the woods, going to a movie, or just sitting still.